Last week I had someone email me about their current fertility clinic. They had been through multiple unsuccessful treatments (6 to be exact) with no real answers and a huge lack of compassion for their situation. It got me thinking about following your instincts, and doing whats right for you....
Going back to the point I always have to relate situations to my own life, I've been horrible at following my instincts lately. I recently put myself out there to a person I honestly trusted whole heartedly. I saw little red flags along the way, but I told myself I was just being crazy. Everything in me was SCREAMING that I was making a wrong decision (maybe a lot of wrong decisions), but I kept going. Sadly, my instincts were right. Those little red flags came to life and whacked me in the damn face.
I was mad at myself because I knew better! Although this situation may have ended poorly for me, I'm also a huge believer in "when one door closes, another one opens." And boy did it. I wouldn't even say one door opened for me.. an entire slew of doors opened for me. It was a huge lesson, that ended better than I could have ever imagined. Never again will I doubt my instincts, but on the other hand if this bad situation would have never happened I wouldn't be where I am right now! Life can work out in funny (F'ed up) ways!
I think the same goes for fertility treatments. You invest so much not just financially, but physically and emotionally as well. If you don't think that your clinic is 100% doing whats right for you or you feel any kind of disconnect with your treatment plan, don't be afraid to say something or to even get a second opinion. You know you better than anyone else, and your instincts are generally right! As for the email that I received, she was finishing up some blood work and then going for a second opinion. Maybe the lack of compassion that was shown to her by her clinic is a blessing, and following her instinct to get a second opinion will lead to a healthy pregnancy!